Do you ever feel inadequate, jealous, worry about not being enough?
Maybe the closer you get to someone, the more you put your walls up and worry about rejection.
Maybe you struggle to tell someone what you want because you’re too afraid of losing them.
What if you could feel so self-assured and calm and confident knowing that you are enough, you are an incredible persona and you can have the adoring relationship you want.
It’s no secret people universally seem to lack self-confidence from time to time. Isn’t it funny how you can be an absolute super start at work and have a great family, a network of friends and so much going for you but when it comes to dating you freeze in your tracks, overthink things, and you seem to have no voice just in case you might offend?
Confidence is critical in so many aspects of your life. If you have confidence, you can breeze through life.
Are you ready to change your story and get confident?
Self-doubt causes you not to be your BEST self and when you aren’t your best self, how can you attract the best person for you?
Let me share this quote with you, by a wise man Jiddu Krishnamurti,
“Relationship is a mirror in which I can see myself. That mirror can either be distorted, or it can be ‘as is’, reflecting that which is. But most of us see in a relationship, in that mirror, things we would rather see; we do not see what is.”
Put it in simple terms, your relationship is a mirror of you.
If you’re attracting toxic relationships or partners that don’t give you the love that you deserve, abandon you and reject you, then you need to start with yourself and say yes to you by loving yourself first.
When you love yourself and truly love yourself, you won’t put up with bad behaviour.
If you don’t love yourself, you will be with someone who doesn’t treat you with love, and you will not put up with bad behaviour.
When you love yourself, you know your worth, and you will be with someone that absolutely adores you, and you won’t get bored because instead of dealing with all the toxic drama that sucks up your time you’ll be out enjoying the things you love.
You know, holidays, adventures, romantic dinners, sailing, surfing, skiing, snuggling up on the couch watching Netflix, candlelit dinners. Whatever it is the world is your oyster.
And you will love and appreciate every moment of it.
See how important it is to be your best you and feel confident.
WHY CONFIDENCE IS SO IRRESISTIBLE AND HOW IT IMPROVES YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
There are so many benefits to feeling confident.
1. FEELING HAPPY
I would have to say the number 1 benefit to being confident is feeling happy within yourself. Confident people don’t seek happiness from external sources, they find happiness from within. You won’t rely on your partner to do certain things to make you happy. Your love will be unconditional vs. conditional. There will be no if you do x then you get y.
When you do this, it takes away the neediness and insecurity, and that builds attraction.
2. FEEL CALM AND ELIMINATE ANXIETY ABOUT REJECTION
Confidence helps you calm the inner critic and eliminate anxiety. When you lack confidence, your mind tends to race, you overthink and create all these different scenarios and raise your anxieties.
Confident people trust the process, they know that everything falls into place, and if it doesn’t work out with one person, there will be another that is more suited.
3. MORE RESILIENCE BETTER COPING METHODS
Just because you’re feeling confident doesn’t mean you might experience the occasional setback. When you are feeling confident, you won’t collapse in a heap, beat yourself up by the setback.
Instead, you will build up resilience and handle things better and push on. Telling yourself better stories and knowing that minor setbacks lead to growth and better things in the long run. Sometimes rock bottom is the beginning of a new beginning and an opportunity to find true happiness.
4. TAKE MORE ACTION AND MEET MORE PEOPLE
Feeling confident means, you’ll take more action, and by doing this, you will get greater results by stepping out of your comfort zone. You’ll develop an attitude of you’ve got to be in it to win it. By putting yourself in front of opportunities, doors will open!
You’ll smile at that stranger that caught your eye, you’ll go on that online date, say hello to someone that takes your fancy when you cross their path, you’ll send out that first text of appreciation, you’ll give more compliments and you’ll know if you get ‘friend-zoned’ you won’t care because you’ll put yourself back out there and take another chance.
The more action you take, the less fear you will have, and the more confidence will boost. It’s a win-win.
5. RELATIONSHIPS WILL IMPROVE BECAUSE YOU CAN ENGAGE
Having confidence means you’ll be out of your head and in your heart. That means instead of being worried about making mistakes, saying the wrong things you take the focus off you, and you will engage with the person in front of you.
When you engage in the present moment, it creates a deep connection that is incredibly appealing.
Plus, you will feel more relaxed, and when you are relaxed, you will make others feel more relaxed and forget stronger connections. Sounds amazing to me!
6. YOU’LL SET HIGHER STANDARDS
You might think that you love a person that is a challenge and you’re not attracted to somoene that is really into you because of it too easy, but the reality is if this is the love strategy you need to check your confidence levels. Confident people set high standards, they know what they are worth and how they should be treated. They will appreciate a person that treats them well and be turned off by one that plays games. It’s healthier.
Instead of thinking what if he/she doesn’t choose me you’ll think is he/she the one I like?
7. YOU’LL BE MORE ATTRACTIVE TO THE OPPOSITE SEX
Confidence is super sexy and is both mind and body. When you’re confident, it will be in your body language the way you walk, stand, and the way you make eye contact. The words you speak. Confident people tend to be more positive because they are secure within themselves.
They stand out and have the x-factor. They’re intriguing, and it feels good to be around them.
They’re typically comfortable in their own skin.
Confident people know what they want, and they go out and get it!
WHEN YOU HAVE CONFIDENCE WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP.
1. YOU’LL ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT
2. YOU’LL SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES
3. YOU WON’T BE JEALOUS AND CONTROLLING
4. YOU CAN BE VULNERABLE
5. YOU’LL SHOW THE REAL YOU!
6. YOU won’t PUT UP WITH BAD BEHAVIOUR
7. YOU’LL GET YOUR NEEDS MET
You’ll even excel in other areas of your life. So what actions do you need to take to feel more confident?
If you’d like help to feel more confident get in touch!